The Secret of Brownie Points
Monday, December 31st, 2007By Bernadette Sukley Brownie points are the ever-elusive, intangible positive things that make your stock go up in your beloveds eyes. Its the subtle trade of favors that are exchanged in any relationship. Wife and husband, child and parent, and boyfriend and girlfriend. The good things youve done go a long way toward proving that youre willing to work or sacrifice to make someone else happy. Something like: Junior raked the leaves, so he can have the car for the mall road trip. You fixed up your friend with her friend, so youll all go bowling. He cleaned up the house, you let him go on his fishing trip. You put up with his mother for a three-hour visit, so hell baby sit while you go on your girls night out. In the world of dating, however, brownie points are a necessary give and take to move the relationship forward. And they add up quickly. Since its assumed you both want the relationship to work, you need to take a proactive attitude towards keeping the flame alive. Something like: You make sure you call her once a day (or week)pick one and stick to it. You refrain from making comments about his sisters attire (less said the better). You watch an episode of Oprah to keep up on current events in womens issues. You avoid scheduling dates on Monday nights during football season. You kiss her in public. You use his first name without adornment (its Bruce not Brucey-woocy). Brownie points also help you get out of the dog house. The imaginary spot where bad behavior lands you. If you made a nasty comment about her mother, no need to wonder why your phone calls have gone unanswered. If you called him a dope in public dont be puzzled as to why your e-mails are being ignored. Youve been treated to an indefinite stay at Dog House. To fight your way back into his or her arms, do two things: keep apologizing with every call, e-mail or text message. And make a date, pronto. Something simple, say, dinner and a movie. This opens the lines of communication so you can find out what you did wrong (so you dont repeat it and end up in the dog house again). You’ll also make sure the relationship gets back on track. You want to show him or her that youre sorry. Resume brownie points as soon as the two of you are back together. Bernadette Sukley is a freelance writer with an eye towards the quirky. Her work has appeared in Sports Illustrated for Women, ABROAD and Prevention.com Love the unique? She does too. Contact: novelist2be@excite.com and http://thequirkywriter.blogspot.com/ Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Bernadette_Sukley http://EzineArticles.com/?The-Secret-of-Brownie-Points&id=443169 order phentermine overnight phentermine online free shipping phentermine 37.5 online phentermine pills without prescription